Excuse me, mister, but may I have your permission to live my life?

11 May

Women, apparently, need to have a man’s approval before doing anything, from staying out late, to drinking with friends at a club, to posing provocatively while having pictures taken.

Today the Miss USA pageant released photos of all 51 contestants posing provocatively while wearing lingerie. There is one on her hands and knees, her arms pushing her cleavage together, making it the focal point of the picture. Others on beds (or, at least, flat surfaces with sheets), some with her legs in the air, and two with button down shirts on but not buttoned. Many women are sticking their asses out and their cleavage is barely contained in the small bras they are wearing.

These are the official photos of the Miss USA pageant yet they closely resemble photos that winners in the past have been stripped of their crown for. Vanessa Williams, probably the most widely known example, was dethroned for a less provocative pose. Just a few years ago in 2006 Miss USA nearly lost her crown when photos of her drinking and making out with girls surfaced. The pageant was up in arms because a woman was doing what thousands of women across the country do. Yet all was forgiven when Donald Trump publically forgave her for her behavior. He then gave her permission to pose for Playboy.

With these incidents the pageant is sending a very clear message: a woman needs a man’s permission to live her life. When past contestants posed nude of their own free will, the were stripped of any title and publically ostracized. But since the pageant, which is co-owned by Donald Trump, has given permission for these photos, it’s suddenly supposed to be okay for the women to be as sexy as she wants to be.

I am not a prude. I whole-heartedly believe that we women are allowed to be sexy and can dress however we want and do whatever we want. But we don’t need anyone’s permission to do so. We are intelligent and certainly not a “weak sex”. We can make decisions for ourselves without advice from any man. So Miss USA pageant directors, if you want the contestants to pose provocatively, fine. But you should issue public apologies and reinstate the titles of all the previous contestants who were publically shunned and humiliated for doing the same thing.


Posted by on May 11, 2010 in Rants


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2 responses to “Excuse me, mister, but may I have your permission to live my life?

  1. Donna

    May 13, 2010 at 2:12 pm

    Well said! I agree! The pageant directors just want total control over what these women do. Of course, as with anything, there are rules but this all seems a bit hypocritical. I would go a step further and say get rid of these pageants. I used to participate in them but now honestly feel they send a bad message to women. In other words, “You’re ugly and stupid if you don’t look like this.” This very particular definition of what beauty is limits many women, especially young women and women with challenges.

  2. Carmen

    May 29, 2010 at 8:18 pm

    Very true! I didn’t even think of that when I saw the pics. Vanessa Williams needs to bitch slap Donald Trump (not that he was in charge when she was dethroned, but he still supports the hypocritical double standard of “it’s okay to have sexy pictures if we give you permission” that was her downfall).


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